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TIM RAY AND BARBARA BERGER’S NEWSLETTER
NO. 61 / APRIL 2013
In this newsletter you can read about:
1) Are You Happy Now? – coming August 30!
2) Mind your own business
3) Barbara on the Bernie Siegel Show
4) Hi Norway here we come!
5) Tim on Rebecca Norrington’s show
6) BB’s Special: Two great books for just USD 15,95
Are You Happy Now? – coming August 30!
- A powerful combination of the spiritual and the psychological
We’re happy to announce that Barbara’s highly praised book “Are You Happy Now? – 10 Ways to Live a Happy Life” will be released in the US, the UK and the other English-speaking countries on August 30, 2013!
For Barbara’s many readers around the world, the book is already available in Czech, Danish, Dutch, Estonian, Finnish, Greek, Hebrew, Hungarian, Italian, Korean, Latvian, Lithuanian and Swedish. And will be coming in Icelandic later this year.
One of the main messages of the book is that if you want to live a happy life, it’s a good idea to mind your own business! Here’s a short excerpt from Chapter 5 which is called “Mind Your Own Business”. Enjoy!
“Minding other people’s business is a surefire way to make yourself unhappy. That’s why if you want to live a happy life, I highly recommend you take a close look at this mechanism and ask yourself whose business you are in?
But what exactly do I mean by “minding someone else’s business”?
Well when you mind your own business, you take care of yourself. You are in your own space, focusing on what is going on inside you and on what’s good for you. And you try to make the best possible decisions and take the best possible actions based on everything you know, feel, and love.
When you are minding someone else’s business, you are in their space either telling the person in your mind or out loud to their face what you think they should feel, think and/or do. When you do this, you’re minding their business. And minding another person’s business is quite simply invading their space, unless they have specifically asked for your help or opinion.
So try watching yourself during the day and ask yourself “Whose business am I in right now? Am I minding my own business or someone else’s? Who am I making judgments and decisions for right now? For me or for someone else? And who am I worrying about right now? Who am I thinking about, making plans for, or afraid for?”
You might want to put this book down and ask yourself this question right now. Who’s in your mind at the moment? Who are you worried about right now? Is it your mate, your parents, your friends, your kids? And what kind of worry is it? Is it concrete and practical because you’re standing right next to this person and he or she is in a life and death situation right this minute and only you can save them? (Probably not because how can you be reading this book at the same time?) Or are you extending yourself into their space and making judgments and suggestions—in your own mind—that are not yours to make?
It’s interesting to think about. And it’s interesting to observe as you go through your day and interact with your family, friends and business colleagues. This is a new concept for many people because it’s something we don’t learn in school. So few people are truly aware of what they’re doing. But if you want to live a happy life, the time to wake up and become aware of this mechanism is right now. The key to releasing yourself and others is to stay at home in your own business. Watch what you’re doing and when you find you are moving out of your own space, make the conscious decision to pull back your projections and ideas about what you think other people should or shouldn’t be doing. And stay home with yourself!
When you start to understand this mechanism and begin to notice what you’re doing, you’re probably going to find that a lot of the time you’re everywhere except at home with yourself. If this is the case, don’t despair. Becoming aware of this mechanism is in itself a powerful impulse for transformation. And it works automatically because as you start to see what you are doing, your natural inclination will be to pull back your projections, ideas and suggestions about what you think is good for other people. Your natural inclination will be to let them decide for themselves. Because as you wake up, it becomes obvious that you can’t know what’s good for them anyway. In my experience, thinking that you can or do, causes nothing but pain and personal anguish.
So all we’re left with is the question – whose business are you in? Theirs or yours?”
Barbara recently had the great honor of being Bernie Siegel’s guest on his radio show. Bernie Siegel is a doctor (who specialized in treating cancer patients) and is also the internationally known author of the classic book “Love, Medicine and Miracles”. You can hear Barbara and Bernie’s chat here.
To all our friends in Norway and the surrounding Scandinavian countries, we’d just like to say we’re coming to Norway in October and we’ll be giving a lecture and workshop. The evening lecture will be on Friday October 11 followed by a whole-day workshop on Saturday October 12. The event will take place in Tønsberg, south of Oslo – in the beautiful Holt Gård.
Our evening lecture on Friday will be from 7 pm to 9 pm and is an introduction to our “Getting Real” work. The lecture will include some theory about the nature of mind and consciousness plus some practical exercises. The whole-day workshop on Saturday from 10 am to 4 pm is designed for people who want to work more intensely with the principles described the evening before and try out some of the super effective tools we work with on a daily basis. (Many of the tools we will be working with are described in our book “The Awakening Human Being – A Guide to the Power of Mind”.)
For more information or registration for the event in Norway, send an e-mail to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Hope to see many of you there!
Tim’s book “101 Relationship Myths – How to Stop Them From Sabotaging Your Happiness” continues to make waves. We’re thrilled to announce that the book is now out in Chinese (Taiwan) – and will soon be out in Brazil (in Portuguese). Tim continues to talk about the book on US radio and was recently a guest on Rebecca Norrington’s Reality Spirituality Show. Click here to hear the interview.
And while you’re waiting for Barbara’s new book we have a special offer for you: Get two of Barbara Berger’s books - “The Awakening Human Being” (normal price USD 13,95) and “The Road to Power” (normal price USD 10,00) - for just USD 15,95. Click here to order BB’s Special.